I read, and watch, a lot of motivation speakers. I like how they use analogies to explain things. Like, Stephen Covey using a clock and a compass to teach about the difference between time and direction. I guess that’s a metaphor, not an analogy, but it’s still good stuff.
Wait, I have an analogy example by Deepak Chopra:
If you’re a skillful surfer, every wave is an exhilarating adventure or at least an opportunity to learn something new. If you’ve never learned how to surf, on the other hand, every wave is a terrifying potential disaster.
For me, I sometimes I think of my screenwriting like a wedding. I’m usually invited to the wedding. (The top 10% of a screenwriting competition – also called a 2nd Rounder.) Sometimes I’m in the wedding party. (I make it to the quarter finals.) And I’ve gotten to be a bridesmaid. (That’s a finalist.) But I’m never actually the bride.
I don’t have to be the bride though. I mean it’s helpful. Especially if the groom is a big network studio, or even a big budget independent. Smaller independent grooms are okay, if you are planning a small wedding (low budget film). In writing competitions though, if you just make it in the wedding party, your script could still get read by the people you want to read it. They sometimes look at the whole wedding party (finalists). Well, not so much the mother-of-the-bride (honorable mentions), but it could happen.
So, I always want to be in the wedding party and not do anything embarrassing at the reception (like pitch to producers in the bathroom). It means making new friends (networking). Reading a lot of wedding magazines (screenwriting books). And being ready for the next round of weddings (by rewriting).
To be honest, I have been married before (had an agent). I was just too young at the time and so we parted ways with an “I’ll always love you.” (“I’ll keep writing, and keep it in my drawer.”)
I’ve recently had a blind date (written a stage play). So, who knows, there may be a wedding of some sort in the near future. Until then, I’ll keep reading the wanted ads (industry news, screenwriting competitions) and hitting the gym (hitting the computer keyboard).
Of course, if it doesn’t pan out for me, being the parent of two amazingly talented kids, I know some day I will actually be mother-of-the bride/groom. And people will be nice and polite to me, but still won’t care that once I had a half dozen scripts that were in a wedding party!
Disclaimer: This is my own attempt at analogy and in no way represents my actual marriage. This may not be as powerful at Tony Robbins’ or Dan Thurmon’s analogies, but I’m not a professional speaker. I’m just a writer, trying to get a wedding invitation from a studio exec.